After Rebirth, the Celebrity Daughter is the Medical Expert!

Chapter 737: Chapter 587: Stay Safe—No Marriage, No Kids

"Just sharing, will that make him proactively help me solve my problems?" Xia Hui asked.

"That depends on your communication techniques with him," Ning Youguang chuckled.

"..." Xia Hui scratched her head, "Darling, teach me more, please."

"First, genuinely describe your recent situation to him, then express your feelings, and finally tell him your needs," Ning Youguang advised. "In the first two steps, avoid any judgments or assumptions - stick to the facts. In the last step, when stating your needs, focus on the core issue without deviation. Be firm and articulate, devoid of negative emotions. Avoid assigning blame or questioning the importance of your needs—steadfastly hold onto them and compel him to give a positive response."

—"Learn to manage your husband, sister."

"Okay." Xia Hui felt that regarding the topic of managing her husband, what Ning Youguang advised was digestible enough, "What about my mother-in-law?"

"Regarding your mother-in-law, first clarify the boundaries between you two," Ning Youguang suggested. "Find a suitable opportunity to talk with my brother-in-law, and identify areas in your household where your mother-in-law can intervene and where she can’t. Respect her opinions in areas she can influence, and firmly prohibit her in areas she shouldn’t involve herself."

"After all, we’re all family. How can we draw such clear lines?" Xia Hui felt a bit troubled.

Ning Youguang responded calmly, "If the boundaries within your family remain unclear, you might end up feeling like you’re not even family anymore."

"Alright, I will differentiate," Xia Hui had no desire for such an outcome to emerge.

"Don’t scare yourself just yet," Ning Youguang sighed softly. "Perhaps, when you clarify your boundaries with your mother-in-law, she’ll also feel relieved."

"Will she?" Xia Hui was quite doubtful.

"Why don’t you try it and see?" Ning Youguang suggested, "In interpersonal relationships, learning to make oneself better understood should be everyone’s self-requirement."

—"The greatest truths are often the simplest, the principles are all similar, indeed, it all boils down to execution."

Xia Hui, after venting a pile of complaints, had finally obtained practical solutions to her problems from Ning Youguang, and her mood brightened significantly.

This made her in the mood to share her baby’s daily life with Ning Youguang—

"When I’m holding him, I can feel his little hands tightly gripping my clothes, his eyes darting around, he’s becoming curious about everything around him. He often imitates others’ actions. Yesterday morning, his dad and I were eating sandwiches. Watching us, he would also reach out to grab them and try to eat. When he saw his dad taking big bites, he would also open his mouth to mimic, biting. It’s just too adorable, hahaha."

Ning Youguang patiently listened, occasionally responding with "Wow!" and "That’s so fun!" to Xia Hui’s eagerness to share.

"No matter how uneasy he gets, as long as I hold him gently, feed him, and pat his back, he calms down. Life feels magical; I’ve never felt this way before. Despite the exhaustion and challenges, I don’t resent giving birth to him and blame him for the stress and difficulties. Instead, I feel grateful, grateful he came into my life as my child," Xia Hui expressed happily. "In the past, I also found other people’s children cute. But, looking at my child is entirely different. I never tire of watching him. I often can’t help but wonder, how did I give birth to such an adorable child? To me, he’s surely the cutest child in the world."

Ning Youguang clapped gently, playfully saying, "You’re really good at giving birth!"

But Xia Hui, immersed in her little world of happiness, didn’t feel embarrassed at all. Instead, she nodded in agreement, "Just casually gave birth, that’s all."

Finally, after soothing her anxious cousin, Ning Youguang closed the video on her phone with a light chuckle.

Then, she sat alone in her office for quite some time.

After today’s detailed conversation with her cousin, freēwēbηovel.c૦m

she couldn’t help but contemplate some things—

People used to say, "Without foresight, one must fear immediate worries," but she found that often the case was "With much foresight, there are endless immediate worries."

If a person is always filled with fear and concern about the future, typically, they’re not content in the present, and will face many problems in the future.

This is especially evident with children’s education.

If parents always handle their children’s matters with worry and fear, projecting this mindset onto the child, often what they fear will manifest.

Insecurity is a collective unconscious formed over thousands of years by humans facing uncertainties. It hardly contributes to safety but instead burdens people with enormous psychological stress and many life tragedies resulting from this.

In an era where technology and material conditions have provided basic safety for humans, living with "no worry" and "no fear" in the present is an essential way to a free and flourishing life.

If someone’s everyday life is free, then their whole life is free.

So, when faced with life choices, one needs to analyze from even the smallest matters: "Am I acting out of love and aspiration, or out of fear and worry?"

Accumulated over time, these two mindsets lead to vastly different life outcomes.

Previously, her cousin wasn’t this anxious, but after having a child, she’s become more prone to anxiety.

Is this love for her child so deep that it leads to long-term planning?!

Suddenly, she thought of herself. Has her wisdom really grown to the level where she can manage all her relationships smoothly?

Will there ever be a day when she loses all her rationality and composure for someone?!

She didn’t know.

...

"Youyou, how was Wangyue Company’s team-building activity?" Ning Youguang was deep in thought when Xia Hui called her again on video.

"Is your response time a bit too long?" Ning Youguang sighed.

They had been chatting for so long, only for her cousin to remember to show concern about this after ending the video.

"Sorry." Xia Hui also felt quite embarrassed, "I’m looking after my child day and night, diligently, my mind’s a mess, always forgetting things."

"No worries, I understand," Ning Youguang laughed. "Pregnancy brains last for three years, right?"

Xia Hui wailed, "Having a child is really exhausting for a mom."

"Okay, okay, a story every day about fearing marriage and pregnancy," Ning Youguang nodded repeatedly, "No marriage, no kids, stay safe!"

"Are you also afraid of marriage and kids?" Xia Hui was in shock, "You’re a psychology professor, an expert on human nature, and you’re still afraid of marriage and having kids?!"